Spot your mistakes and improve your skills with girls by practicing new openers and routines as visual rehearsals.
Too many guys attempt to learn seduction from the comfort of their chairs.
The fact is you need to go out into the field and get real, actual practice to improve. Only through real practice can you learn the nuances of seduction and really internalize the new behaviors.
Without practice, you may”know”a lot of book theory, but you won’t have the muscle memory of how to act. You won’t know how to bring the right piece of knowledge in at the right moment. You won’t know how to your theoretical map onto real world situations.
It would be like reading every book on basketball ever written, and then going onto the field having never actually practiced. You’re not going to win any games.
Your brain can only keep track of one or two new things at once. Without practice, in real world situations your brain will be overloaded with knowledge and options that you haven’t internalized yet. You’ll have trouble recalling what you’re supposed to do and say – under the situation of the moment, all of your reading knowledge will leave you.
Only through practice can you really internalize the principles to the point where you don’t have to think about them – you just DO them.
Now, you don’t have to rely on field experience alone to improve.
You also practice AFTER the field experience, when you get home.
Practicing after the actual event is a visual rehearsal.
When you do a visual rehearsal, you simply imagine what you did earlier that day all over again, while it’s still fresh in your mind.
You sit down in a chair where it’s quiet, and imagine your entire interaction with girl in vivid detail. For example, if you approached a girl at the mall, you would imagine the mall in vivid detail. You would imagine spotting the girl, noticing what she was wearing, and walking up to her.
You might imagine in a third person perspective, looking down at yourself, or from a 1st person perspective looking through your own eyes. It doesn’t matter.
Imagine how you walked up to her and your body language. Imagine what you said and how she reacted. Imagine the entire interaction from start to finish. This is the visual rehearsal.
Here’s where the learning part comes in. By visually and vividly reexamining the interaction, you’ll be able to spot obvious mistakes. Were you gawky or nervous? Could anything about your nonverbals be improved? Did you deliver the opener well in a playful, relaxed way? How did you follow up the opener?
The visual rehearsal should approach reality as close as possible so that your brain won’t be able to tell the difference.
Now start experimenting. Make some changes. Imagine how you should have approached the girl, ideally.
Imagine using a different opener and seeing how she would have reacted differently.
Imagine what you could have said when you stalled and ran out of something to say.
Get that new routine or story you read yesterday and imagine delivering it in the interaction to build some attraction.
Because the interaction is so fresh in your mind, you’ll be able to practice new openers and routines in the interaction vividly in your mind.
Here’s the magic: the outcomes you imagine will be generally accurate.
Meaning, if you imagine using a new routine, the response you imagine from the girl will be generally accurate.
That’s because if the experience is fresh in your mind and you have first hand experience of the events, like all human beings you have a natural knack for knowing how other human beings will respond to you.
Try variation after variation. Practice over and over the interaction as a visual rehearsal for an hour – again and again four, five, six, or seven times. Try this opener, then that opener. Try smiling, try changing your body angle, change your cues.
And even if you went out and you stalled on approaching the girl, visually rehearse what you should have done.
Remember, the visual rehearsal should be like watching a movie, except where you’re the director. That’s why it’s so critical to do the visual rehearsal immediately after the experience. If you wait two days later, it won’t work!
I had a dream not too long ago that I was flying. But this dream was different. While flying in the dream I *realized* I was dreaming. I *realized* I was in a dream. This is called a LUCID dream.
Once I realized that I was flying in my dream, I started to consciously control it. I flew on roofs. I flew over the ocean. I did stunts. It was so REAL. Freaky real. Real because I had total conscious control over what I was doing… yet it didn’t feel like my imagination, it felt REAL. I realized within the dream I could wake myself up, but I didn’t want to because it was so cool to fly.
I’ve only had lucid dreams a few times in my life (at least that I can remember) and in some ways a visual rehearsal is not much unlike a lucid dream.
It should seem real, but you’re in total control.
Your brain will actually LEARN new skills this way, very quickly.
Try it. I’s one of my favorite methods of learning.
Just remember, do it based on a REAL experience you JUST had. Go out to a club and mall where there are girls. Even if you don’t approach them, just get an experience and environment FRESH in your head as a base to work with.